It isn’t a reality any nearlywed wants to face, but the truth is many couples have been opting for smaller weddings due to provincial restrictions and overall safety. The good thing is- weddings are to celebrate YOU, and no amount of guests or lack thereof can change that.
If you’re here, you’re probably looking for ways to cut down that guest list, so here are my best tips:
- Prioritize your lists. It may seem harsh to have to categorize your loved ones, but chances are you already have a good idea of who you absolutely couldn’t have your event without. A good place to start is making a list of loved ones you Need To Attend (10 guests or less), Want to Attend (50 guests or less), and Wish Could Attend (50+ guests).
- From there, categorize each list further by how you know people. For example, you could have a list of work friends, school friends, immediate family, extended family, sports groups, and so on. This makes it easier to cut down your list if you need to without offending individual people, because it will make more sense to your co-workers if none of them are invited rather than if you just pick-and choose your favourites. There are exceptions to this, however, if you have very close friends in certain groups and it would make sense to others that they attend your event alone.
- Get rid of plus-ones. This is one of the easiest ways to pare down a guest list. Since your event will be more intimate, it is more likely that many of your loved ones will already know each other, which will curb some of that awkwardness of a guest not knowing anyone at your event.
- Opt for virtual invites. This can be decided from the beginning or guests can be invited to the in-person event with a caveat that if restrictions do not allow for enough guests, they will be able to view virtually. This can sound something like, “Pending local guidelines, we may have to reduce our in person guest count and offer virtual viewing instead”. This lets your loved ones be involved regardless of where they may be watching from.
Times are changing and it is leading more couples towards intimate celebrations. Remember, this isn’t permanent, and someday down the line we truly believe you can have the big wedding of your dreams. If you want to be married in the meantime, though, I hope this list helps you find a way to make it happen.