How To: Write Your Own Vows

Depending on the comfort levels of you and your partner, personalized vows can be a beautiful addition to your wedding ceremony. People often have an overwhelming feeling when beginning to write vows because there is so much emotion attached to them. Whether it be because you don’t know where to begin, or because you have so much to say, these tips should help you get out of your writing rut.

Start the process as soon as possible

Having as much time as you can is super helpful because it allows you to have more time to explore your feelings in writing as well as create and edit multiple drafts.

Drafts, drafts, drafts

Once you get writing, try to write down everything that comes to your mind. It doesn’t have to be cohesive at this point, but getting as many thoughts on paper as possible helps you to have more material to choose from when you create your final draft.

Take pieces from other writing

There are many sources of writing that contain perfect material for your vows, and writing your own vows doesn’t mean that you can’t throw in pieces from other places as well. You can find vow books, poetry, lyrics, or even just quotes online that resonate with you and your relationship and make perfect additions to your vows.

Make it personal, but not too personal

Be sure to share stories and moments of your relationship that reflect who you are as a couple, but be careful not to share stories or anecdotes that are too personal. You want your partner to be comfortable with what you are sharing, and you also want your guests to not feel like they are left out of an inside joke.

Include actual vows

Vows are just another way to make promises to your spouse. These promises are a big part of writing your vows, and whether you make silly or sweet promises, make sure you include some form of written vows to your partner.

Have a third party read both you and your partner’s vows

Having someone outside of the relationship read both sets of vows can be incredibly helpful in making sure that you and your partner are on the same page. Since personalized vows can be done in so many ways, it is always a good idea to make sure that one partner isn’t overly funny while the other partner is pretty serious, as an example. Having a quick conversation before either of you begin writing can also be helpful to avoid that problem.

Keep it between 2-4 minutes

Especially if you aren’t particularly comfortable with public speaking, keep in mind that your vows do not have to be lengthy. You want to say enough to capture the moment and show your partner how you feel about your relationship in it’s past, present, and future, but you want to do this in a short enough time that people don’t begin to lose interest in the story you are trying to tell.


Make sure you take the time to practice saying your vows out loud. It may feel silly, but this is a key step in making sure that you don’t stumble over your words during the wedding. If you still do, don’t worry about it! People will remember your stories more than they will remember how you spoke them.

That’s the end of the tips, so now it is time for you to get writing!

For a more personal and detailed example, here are the vows my husband and I wrote for each other:

My dear, sweet Jacob,

I love you so much. Before you, I’m not sure I loved anything more than pie (just kidding mom). But actually, before you, I didn’t believe real gentlemen even existed anymore. You are the sweetest, most gentle, and most selfless man I know. I could never have asked for someone like you, but now that I have you, I have everything I could have wanted in a husband. Somehow you always find a way to make me feel better even on my lowest days, and I hope that I can do the same for you throughout our life together. I can’t wait to have endless days with you watching reruns of Gilmore Girls, exploring thrift stores and eating more than the suggested amount of ice cream that two people should have in a lifetime. I am excited to be able to say that I will do life with you, through all of the highs and lows it will throw at us. I know that we are going to have good and bad days, but I hope in all our days, whether they be days where we love fiercely or argue frequently, that we will always demonstrate through our love for each other that we have a fervent love for God. I vow that in all our years together, I will never make you play Jenga, though I can’t promise that I won’t still ask. I promise to give you all the kisses on our good and bad days because I know that sometimes that is all you need. The last two years together we have had some of the best days of my life, and I know we will continue to share adventures and explore the world together as we change and grow closer as a couple. I am certain that my future with you will be even better than the past that we have already shared, and I can’t wait to begin this new chapter with you as your wife. I love you a coffee.

Jenna Marie,

I love you with the force of a thousand lightyears. The love I have for you is second only to the love I have for Christ my savior. You are a gift. You’re a gift I never dreamed I could want or need and everyday I will show you that you’re a gift I deserve. You make me the best person I could ever want and hope to be and I want to spend, learn and love the rest of my life with you. I pinky promise todo my best to make God the steadfast pillar of our marriage so we may lean on and hold to Him everyday. I vow to do my best to lead, support, and strengthen you through times of plenty and in times of less so. I vow to hold your hand, kiss your cheek and massage your back until I no longer can. I vow to be honest, caring, patient. To be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry. Our marriage will be testing, humbling, gratifying and God-glorifying and a million things we could never prepare for. But I want to be by your side and face with you every victory, failure, smile and tear. You make me so proud to be myself and to stand by you yesterday, today and every day hereafter. I love you a lottle. For forever and a week, my love. God has blessed me immeasurably more than I ever thought possible and today I can’t wait to start a new chapter with you.

How to: Choose a realistic wedding budget

Previously on this blog, we talked a little bit about tight budgets and where you can find extra wiggle room (See Budget’s tight? Here are the first things to cut from your event.). Before you can focus on where to cut costs, or even on what your main priorities are for your event, first you have to create your overall ideal budget. For some people, a range of a few thousand dollars is okay, but others want to have a specific budget that is set in stone. Either way, finding that number that works for you and your spouse can be confusing if you’ve never planned a large event before. This post isn’t going to dive into what percentage of your budget should be allocated to each area, but rather will give you an idea of how to pick a overall wedding budget amount that works for you and your spouse.

Here are the things you will want to consider:

Industry Costs

Before anything else, you will want to find out how much each vendor typically costs in your area. This will help you create a budget that will be realistic, and thus help you stay within the budget you end up creating.


How much money will you make in the length of your engagement that DOESN’T go to necessities (food, housing, etc)? Are you a spender or a saver? Where can you cut costs comfortably? You’ll want to consider how much you can realistically save to put towards your budget while still living comfortably.

Other Funds

Is there anyone other than you and your partner that will be contributing to your big day? If so, you will have to have upfront conversations with them about how much and where/how they will be contributing so that you can make your budget accordingly.

Guest Count

Typically, the more people you invite to your wedding, the more costly it will be. This very occasionally is not the case, but definitely think about your guest count when creating your budget.


Some people prefer for every wedding related expense to be part of the budget, while others are okay leaving a few things out. Think about what counts in your budget, and what will just be other costs outside of it. Do rings count? Does your honeymoon count? What about alterations to your attire? These are the main things that people tend to leave out, but it is important to think about how you will pay for everything, whether it is in the budget or not.


When you envision your day, what stands out the most? People prioritize different things, such as food or photography, and the budget you create should reflect what is most important to you.


If it is important to you to have your wedding on a certain date, the costs could reflect that. Off season weddings are significantly more inexpensive that mid-season weddings, so keep in mind your date, or at least the season you would like if you don’t have a date set.

Hidden/Extra Costs

Sometimes vendors have extra costs associated with services they perform (such as a corkage fee). It is a good idea to think about these and ask your vendors about hidden costs, so you can factor them in to your budget. In addition to this, it is a good idea to factor in vendor tips, as these can add a few hundred dollars, sometimes more.

Add Contingency

Contingency is just a fancy way of saying you’ll need extra money. This extra will allow for anything unexpected to still fall in your budget, where without it you could be going over.

Once you have figured out all of these factors, you should have a pretty good idea of what you should spend on your wedding for the budget to be realistic and comfortable. I’ll leave you here with something you’ve probably heard a thousand times, but please, please, don’t go into debt for your wedding. Weddings are a beautiful and exciting time, but they are just one day at the start of many with your new spouse.

How to: Pick Your Event Vendors

Picking your vendors is definitively one of the more challenging parts of planning your event. Some vendors may be more obvious to you- like picking that barn venue you have had your eye on for years- but others can be a little more complex when it seems they are all offering the same thing, or when you just aren’t quite sure what you want yet.

I will be the first to admit that this isn’t a comprehensive list of all the things you should do before you hire your vendors-there are about a million questions you should be asking each and every one of them before you sign any papers (blog post to come 😉). However, if you are looking for a starting point of how to narrow down the sea of vendors available to you, this list should help.


This is probably obvious, but find out pricing of vendors before falling in love with their work when you can. If you love the vendor and they are on or below budget, continue on with the rest of these considerations, but also keep in mind that your budget allocations should be somewhat flexible. This doesn’t mean your overall budget needs to go up, but if you have your heart set on a venue that is more than you allocated to that expense, as long as you are okay with cutting back in another area, you don’t have to completely rule the dream venue out.


The ease of which you can hire vendors near your event location depends a lot on where you decide to host the event. Just keep in mind that if a vendor does not typically service events in your area, there may be costs associated with them travelling to the event location. This is not always the case, but when possible it is usually best to hire vendors within the area. This will also help things run more smoothly on the day of, as they will likely be familiar with the venue or the area you are hosting the event in.


This is a pretty important one. You may not be overly concerned with the personality of your vendors, but when you are trying to enjoy a special day, there is nothing you want less than nitpicky vendors, or people that just don’t jive with your vision or personality. Make sure that you meet with your vendors in person (or at the very least over the phone) before you hire them so you can be sure they are someone you know you will communicate and get along well with.


Most vendors have a specific style of the services that they offer. For example, venues can vary in style from a rustic barn venue to a sleek modern hotel venue and pretty much anywhere in between. This is the same for every type of vendor- photographers can have edgy or airy styles, caterers may serve formal plated dinners or barbeque style truck food, and so on. Hiring vendors that specialize in the style you want captured on your event date is key to ensuring your day looks the way you envisioned. Though it is sometimes possible to transform an event space or ask a vendor to do something in a specific style, it tends to be best to choose vendors that are experts in the style you are looking for, so that you know they get your vision and are able to capture it.


Reviews and references can be super helpful for ease of mind, and to get to know a bit of behind the scenes of how a vendor works and communicates throughout the planning process. If you can get a phone number of a previous client from a vendor, that is perfect so you can ask them any questions you have about their side of working with the vendor. Another good reference is to look at the vendor’s social media profiles to see if they fit your vision (tagged photos are great to see the unstaged photos of real events). Sometimes vendors are just starting out and don’t have much experience to share with you. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, you will just want to be sure that you align with the vendor’s personality and the services they are offering you.

Please, Get Contracts

Get everything in writing, read the fine print, and make sure that you ask questions if you aren’t sure about something. You will be paying these vendors for their services and you want to make sure that you are getting all the services you need, and that you know what it will be costing you.

It can be overwhelming seeing how many vendors are available to you. This list should help you narrow your choices down so that you can meet with vendors and begin putting together your dream day.

How To: Registry Tips

For some people, thinking of things they need or want for their new venture comes pretty easily, and that is great! However, a lot of people have a hard time asking for gifts, or just don’t know where to begin, especially if they already have a lot of what they need. Loved ones really enjoy spoiling you during special times in your life, but it is also important that they know what kinds of things you need or want so their gifts will be put to good use. Here are some tips on how to make a great registry so the gift giving and receiving process is seamless:

1. Do it early

You want to be sure that your registry is ready early enough for people that want to give you a shower gift or that like to get their shopping done early.

2. Have a variety for EVERYTHING

A great registry has options for every single person invited to your event. This means you have to diversify your gift wants and needs to cover a wide scope of options. You want to include:

Various price points- Anywhere from $5 to $150 is a good ball park range. This way people can choose to bundle a few things if they want more than one item or people who want to spend a bit more have options they know you want to receive.

Various stores-Have a variety of stores so you know there is at least one store each person will have access to.

Various buying options- Have options for both in store and online purchasing. This doesn’t mean you have to have an in store registry somewhere, but having options on your registry that can be purchased through a link as well as ones that can be purchased in store is a good idea.

Various gift types: Your registry doesn’t have to be all physical gifts, though obviously those are a key part. Believe it or not, some people actually want to give you cash, so having an option on your registry to give cash towards a specific fund like a honeymoon fund helps them know where that cash is going. Another option is to register for vouchers or gift cards for experiences, such as getting a couples massage or going to dinner together.

3. Over-register

It is a much better idea to register for too many gifts so that people have options than to register for too few and have the registry run out of items before everyone has purchased their gift.

4. Find a registry checklist so you don’t miss anything

Especially if you will be moving into a new home or this is your first babe, having a list to reference is a good idea so you don’t miss any of the small details (think box cutters for your home or pacifiers for your new babe)

5. Think of getting upgrades or extras

If you are struggling with ideas because you already have everything, think of registering for upgrades that you may not have purchased yourself, or extras of things you know you will consistently need (think diapers in growing sizes or cleaning supplies).

6. Add an address

Often times people don’t want to have to bring their gift to the event, or people want you to have it as soon as possible, especially if it is something they know you could also use before your event date. Adding an address (or a ship to home option with a hidden address) lets the gifts come straight to you, and you can choose whether you want to open them right away. This will also take the stress out of loading so many gifts up to bring home after your event.

7. Keep track of all gifts

Have a handy spreadsheet to keep track of every gift you get, who it is from, and when you sent the thank you note. This will ensure that nobody’s gift gets forgotten once you open it up and put it to use in your home, so that you can reference exactly what each guest purchased for you in their thank you card.

This list should give you a good starting place for building a useful registry. Enjoy your gift choosing!

The Average Wedding Day Timeline

Every wedding is unique in its priorities and therefore its overall timeline. Some couples choose to focus heavily on traditions during the ceremony making it longer, while other couples choose to keep it simple and short. Both options can be captivating and memorable, but the differences definitely impact the overall timeline of your wedding day. This same idea can be translated into getting ready, photo sessions, and your reception- everything in your timeline is dependent on how you personalize your day. Because of this, finding a timeline template for your day that fits with your exact vision can be difficult. If you hire a planner, they will most likely create your timeline for you in a way that is tailored to your day and ensures you have the best amount of time set out for each portion of your event. On the other hand, if a planner simply isn’t in your budget or your planner doesn’t offer this service, you may be looking for a place to start getting an idea of what your timeline could look like (congrats, you found it!).

Rather than creating an hour by hour timeline that can’t be translated to every couple’s wedding, I have created a basic list with each wedding day segment and how long it takes on average. This way, you can take these basic guidelines and apply them to your wedding by cutting out or adding in any segment, no matter what you want your day to look like.

Getting Ready/ Pre- Ceremony (5-7 hrs):

Bridal Hair and Makeup: Hair should take between 45m-1.5hrs (your hairdresser will be able to give you a better estimate once they know what style you are looking for), and makeup takes about 30m-1hr.

Bridesmaids Hair and Makeup: About 30m-1hr per bridesmaid should be enough, but this depends on how many bridesmaids to artists as well as the complexity of each look.

Getting dressed: 15-20m depending on photos.

Groom & Groomsmen: The men need only about 30m-1hr depending on what they need to do the morning of (usually it is just getting dressed, a few photos, and maybe shaving, so this is plenty of time).

Photos: 30m-1hr before the ceremony should be allotted for any bridal portraits as well as photos of the bride with her maids and the groom with his men

First look: If you are doing a first look you want to allot 1-1.5 hrs, depending again on how much time you need for photos (your photographer will be able to tell you how much time they need for your shots)

Ready to go: Though it seems like a silly thing, you want to give yourself 30m on the timeline before the ceremony begins to just be ready. This will give you extra time in case anything takes a little longer than expected so that your ceremony can still start on time. If you would like, this time can also be used to snap a few photos since everyone will be ready to go.

Ceremony (20m-1hr):

This depends pretty heavily on what traditions you want to include, and since they are so vast, having a chat with your officiant or planner will give you a good idea of how long each piece that you want to include will take. As a general rule, a simple ceremony with just a processional, welcome, vows, ring exchange, kiss, and then recessional will take 20-30m, and each tradition or ceremony you add after that usually takes about 5-10m.

Family and Bridal Party Photos (45m-1hr):

You want this step to go as fast as possible, as these are more formal photos that don’t tend to get looked at quite as often as the more creative portraits. Giving yourself 20-30m for family photos, and then another 20-30m for bridal party photos will be plenty of time as long as everyone knows they need to stick around for the photos.

Cocktail Hour (1-1.5hrs):

Some people choose to skip this step all together, especially if you have already done your portraits during a first look, but to allow more time for photos, having a cocktail hour where your guests can mingle is a good idea. Just make sure you don’t go over the 1.5hr mark, or your guests will start to get a little antsy,

Reception (4-6hrs):

Grand entrance: This step only takes about 5m, which gives you and your party time to enter and seat yourselves.

Meal: You want about 20-30m per course, this will give your guests enough time to chat and still enjoy each course.

Speeches/Toasts: Give each person making a toast a 5 minute limit (or better, give them a 3 or 4 minute limit, but allot 5m each expecting them to go over). You should have no more than 8 speeches (40m), but if you have this many, try to space them out if you can.

First dances: You want to allot 5m each for m/s, f/d, and first dance, which brings you to 15m.

Cake cutting: This only takes about 5m, and that gives you enough time to snap a few photos while doing so.

Bouquet/Garter toss: Give yourselves 5m each if you are including this step.

Dancing: You want to have at least 1.5hrs for dancing if you are having it, but this step can really go on as long as you like.

Grand exit: Depending on what you are doing for your exit, this step takes between 5-15m to get everyone ready and have you on your way.

There you have it! These are all the steps that you will have to include in your timeline, however, it is important to note that there are a lot of other steps going on within the set up (and tear down) of your event. This should be something your vendors will be able to coordinate, but if you want to have the vendor steps on your timeline as well, you can always chat with them to see how long they need for each portion of their tasks. Hopefully this was helpful to your planning, but if the task seems a little overwhelming once you see it on paper, feel free to use my Contact page to shoot me an email, as I offer timeline creation as a separate service if you are needing a little help!

How To: Write the Perfect Toast

If you are not a huge fan of public speaking, the idea of performing a toast at your event or your loved one’s event can seem a bit daunting. Here are some tips to get you started and ensure that your toast is written and performed seamlessly.

1. Introduce yourself.

This is big, guys! It is so, so important to introduce yourself and your relationship to the guest of honor (unless of course, YOU are the guest of honor). Letting guests know who you are helps people to understand and relate more to the story you will be telling with your toast.

2. Write a few drafts.

If you’re stuck on where to begin, just start writing anything and everything down! Remember that your first draft doesn’t have to be your last, so jotting things down point form or editing things out later are perfectly fine options.

3. Keep it under 5 minutes.

Some guests of honor will set specific parameters (3 min, 5 min, etc) for how long they want your toast to be, so follow these parameters first. If they don’t set any parameters for you, sticking to five minutes or less will give you just enough time to say what you need to without guests getting bored.

4. Speak about the guest(s) of honor.

This one may seem obvious, but it sometimes gets forgotten when there is more than one guest of honor (think weddings), especially if you have a much closer relationship with one party than the other. It is definitely okay to lean heavier on the anecdotes about the person you are close with, but make sure you include one or two points about the other party, or the couple as a whole.

5. Make sure your toast isn’t too personal.

Of course you want to highlight the guest(s) of honor in your toast, but steer clear of embarrassing stories that they aren’t going to appreciate. Even if you think a story would be well received, it’s best to avoid it or double check with the guest(s) of honor before sharing anything too personal in your speech. It is also a good note to steer clear of any stories or inside jokes that the guests won’t understand.

6. Offer your well wishes.

One of the most important and meaningful parts of your toast will be offering your well wishes to the guest(s) of honor. Keep it simple and sincere so other guests will resonate with the message and toast along with you.

7. Practice out loud.

This is also so, so important! Even if you are a natural at public speaking, practicing your toast will ensure that your presentation goes smoothly and you are within the time frame you have been given.

Writing a toast can be difficult especially when you feel you have too little or too much to say. When all else fails, tell a quick story and wish the guest of honor well, and you will be good to go- this tip also helps if you forget your notes (please remember your notes)! You got this!

Unique Shower Ideas

There are a lot of traditions surrounding showers, but for some people, these traditions just don’t fit with their personality or event vision. Most commonly, showers are held to celebrate upcoming weddings or new children. While some people choose not to host showers at all (which is also a totally viable option!), they can be a great way to socialize and catch up with people before your big life event. A traditional shower isn’t for everyone though, so I have compiled a list of ideas to help you through creating something a little more unique for your event.

1. Make it a couple’s shower!

Showers traditionally only involve female guests. If you host a couples shower there will be more people to enjoy the party, and guests who don’t know anyone else will have someone to tag along with.

2. Host it outside the home.

Often times, showers are hosted from the guest of honor or one of their family or friend’s homes. This is a great option to save costs and make the shower feel cozy and personal, but if you want a more unique option, try hosting it somewhere a little different. The world is your oyster when it comes to choosing a space, but some to think about include arcades, bowling alleys, or the beach.

3. Base the shower around an activity.

This can somewhat involve the previous point, as some activities flow naturally with where the event is held. But even if you don’t want to bring the event outside the home, you can still incorporate different activities than those at a typical shower. Hosting a pool party or craft day or bringing in entertainment like someone to host a cooking class, wine tasting, paint party are all great ideas.

4. If you want shower games, find DIFFERENT options.

If you want to spice it up a bit, try to find games that aren’t your typical toilet paper wedding dress or forbidden words clothespins (if you know, you know). There are endless shower games that you can find online, or better yet, you could make one up yourself.

5. Focus on charity if you have everything you need.

This option is becoming a tad more popular, especially for larger main events like weddings, but it can be a great option for your smaller events as well. Some people already have the things they need to feel ready for their next endeavor, and if so, asking for donations to charity can be a great alternative to gifts. Just be aware that some people will likely still want to give you a traditional gift and that is okay too!

6. Focus your registry on experiences.

There are a lot of ways to add experience gifts to your registry online, or to let guests know that you would prefer experience gifts rather than physical gifts. Guests can then choose the things off your registry or choose other things they think you would enjoy. Some options you might want to consider adding to your registry are spa vouchers, restaurant gift cards, or cleaning services.

7. Request gifts by theme.

Experience gifts are one example of this, but there are tons of different options to choose from when it comes to asking for gifts by theme. This option can also be helpful if you don’t need much, because you can ask for gifts that are focused on exactly the areas you need. For example, you can ask for travel themed gifts, gifts focused on the new mama instead of the babe, books instead of cards, etc.

Hopefully this list gave you a few ideas on how to diversify your shower experience. Remember to make it your own and have fun with it!

How To: Incorporate Your Event Theme

If you’ve seen my last post (Your Event Theme: Where to Begin), you know a bit already about developing and creating a cohesive theme that reflects your vision for your event. After developing an idea for your theme, the next step is to think of how you can tie it in to various areas of your event. You may have already come up with some ideas of how to do this while deciding on your theme- think of any inspiration photos that helped you decide on your theme, there could be aspects of your event right there!

It is important to find ways that you can involve your theme in most or all parts of your event to create a cohesive experience for you and your guests. Here are some areas you might want to consider, with some examples to help you along:

Venue: Certain venues can play a large role in dictating theme, while others offer more of a blank slate to build your theme upon. You will want to choose a venue while keeping your theme in mind, or the opposite if you come across your venue before deciding on a theme.

An example: An old castle can go a long way when trying to portray a fairy tale theme.

Stationery: One of the easiest ways to incorporate theme is through your stationery, whether that involves invitations, escort cards, menus, etc. Stationery can be widely customized with different textures, fonts, images, wording, and so much more.

An example: You are hosting a garden party themed shower, so you print the invitations on biodegradable seed paper.

Florals: While many types and colours of floral arrangements are not exclusive to certain themes, there are certainly ways to have your florals point to your theme specifically. It also helps to think of the vessels that will be holding any florals being used as décor, as these containers come in varying types that can be applied to your theme.

An example: Wildflowers are a great addition to a laid back, rustic theme.

Attire: Your attire as well as guest attire can contribute to the theme and formality of your event, especially in the case of parties that call for costume wear.

An example: If you are hosting a formal masquerade party, what guests wear to your event will have a big impact on how the theme comes across.

Food: Food is often left not reflecting the theme, but it doesn’t have to be that way. By incorporating foods that relate to your theme, guests will feel truly involved in the theme of your event. Your cake is a great way to incorporate your theme as well.

An example: Having a picnic family reunion where each household brings a favourite dish (and the story behind it!) is a great way to get conversation going and remind guests the reason behind the event.

Music: Music, similarly to floral elements, is not something that is exclusive to one theme. Most events with dancing will play some current hits to get people on the dance floor, though these songs may not relate directly to the event theme. That being said, having music that reflects your theme is definitely possible, and can add to the overall flow of your event.

An example: A 70s themed anniversary party may play some music from the decade, while playing other current songs that reflect the sounds and style of that decades music.

Entertainment: Your theme can easily be translated into the types of entertainment you may have at your event. Whether your entertainment involves party games, live performances, or anything else you can imagine, it will likely naturally reflect the theme of your event. It is also good to keep in mind that entertainment does not always have to be costly, as there are many simple ways to entertain guests that don’t involve spending a big portion of your budget.

An example: A weekend camping themed retreat may involve outdoor games such as cornhole and ultimate frisbee.

Lighting: Lighting can be one of the easiest ways to make or break an event. It is important to consider the atmosphere you want to create for your event when choosing the lighting style that will best go along with your theme.

An example: If you are hosting a romantic, industrial themed wedding, hanging Edison bulbs or other warm, visible lighting will help communicate your theme.

Linens: Linens can be great for introducing colours and textures that go along with your theme.

An example: If you are hosting a mermaid themed birthday party, having cream sequined tablecloths with purple and teal napkins and other accents will go a long way.

Decorative Objects: Décor that will be placed around your event can make a great addition to the overall theme and feeling that is in your event space. These kinds of decorative objects can be great on a guest book table, cake table, or anywhere else that needs a little something to look perfect for your event.

An example: Having a stack of old books with a vintage trinket on top on a guest book table is a great addition at a vintage themed wedding.

Creating an event theme can be a difficult process, so once you have developed a theme that you love, you want to be sure that it is well translated throughout your event. There are so many areas and ways to incorporate your theme, and I hope this post got you thinking of a few areas you may not have previously thought of doing so!

Your Event Theme: Where to Begin

As an event designer and planner, I have the privilege of creating and seeing so many types of beautiful events. Bringing out people’s personalities within their event is something that I strive for in many creative ways to create the unique effect the client wants for theirevent.

Choosing an event theme comes naturally for some events. Think of hosting a backyard barbeque, for example. Though there are many ways to create a unique theme for this, a pretty common theme would involve red and white checkered linens, picnic tables, lawn games, etc. With certain events, like weddings and birthday parties, themes can be a bit more difficult to decide on. There are key elements that can contribute to the theme of these events, however they can typically be personalized to any theme that you decide on. This makes deciding on a theme for these events a tad more difficult, as there is such a wide variety of options that include anything you could dream of.

These days, there is a vast array of resources available to browse event trends and ideas, and these can give you ideas for what you want your event to look and feel like. Sometimes having these platforms available to you can be a great help in identifying your likes and dislikes when it comes to event themes, décor, colours, attire, etc. On the other hand, it can sometimes be confusing and overwhelming to have so many ideas available to you.

A planner can help develop your interests and ideas into a cohesive theme. Often times, these themes will fall into a few categories, such as rustic, modern, bohemian, and so on, but these themes can also overlap and this is what creates a unique event personalized to you.

There are a few main things to think about when pondering ideas for your theme:

Colour Palette- What colours would you love to incorporate into your event? What colours do you absolutely not want to incorporate?

Venue- Is there a specific style of venue you want? Maybe a barn, rooftop, café?

Season- What season do you want to hold your event in? Is there a season or date that holds meaning to you and your event?

Age group: Who is your event for? Is it adults only or family oriented?

Event purpose: What are you hosting the event for? Is it a wedding, birthday party, family reunion?

Having a few images or ideas ironed out when you first meet with your event planner is key to helping us be able to iron out what you want the style and theme of your event to be. Even if you have no idea when you first meet your planner, we are trained to be able to pull from your personality, likes and dislikes, and any images you show us to create a theme tailored to your event.

Should you hire a planner?

There are many ways that event planners can assist you in creating your dream event. However, if you aren’t confident that you want to hire a planner, here are some key things to think about to help you decide.

Budget: Often times, hiring a planner can actually save you money because of the connections they have with vendors. However, if your budget is tight, you may just not reasonably be able to hire a planner and still have room in your budget for the other things you want at your event.

Organization: Maybe you love organization and planning, and the idea of planning a large event excites you! In this case, you can probably manage a simple wedding or event with the help of friends and family. If your event has a lot of vendors and a lot of details to pay attention to, you might want a planner to ensure you don’t miss out on anything you know you want for your event. If you aren’t the most efficient when it comes to being organized and keeping a schedule, or if you want an extra pair of eyes to make sure you haven’t missed a step, a planner is going to save you a lot of time and effort.

Clerical Work: Planning a wedding involves a lot of communication with a lot of people. If you like clerical work, you might not find it daunting to communicate with many vendors at the same time. On the other hand, if you don’t enjoy checking emails, reading contracts, and keeping up with other forms of communication, it might be nice to have a planner who can take care of the majority of these tasks for you.

Vision: If you don’t have a clear vision of what you want your event to look like, having a planner especially in the beginning stages of planning can be key. Planners are trained to know how to creatively involve your interests and create a unique event that reflects your personality. You may already have a Pinterest board full of ideas, and in that case, you might be okay tackling those DIYs yourself to create your vision.

Other Responsibilities: Life gets busy, and if you have full time work or anything else that takes up the majority of your time, it might just not be practical to set aside a few hours a day to plan your event. Hiring a planner who has the time and knows how to work efficiently will be key to hosting the event you have been dreaming of.

Day-Of: As a general rule, it is always a good idea to have someone other than yourself that vendors or guests can come to with any questions on the day of the event. Maybe you have someone responsible close to you that could handle this task, but if you can’t think of anyone, or if you want your close friends and family to be able to relax and enjoy your event, it would be a good idea to hire a planner or coordinator, at least for the day of the event.

Hiring a planner is never a bad idea, as there are always ways that a planner can assist you and things that a planner may know that you might not think of. Hopefully, if you have been unsure of whether or not to hire a planner, this list gave you a little bit of clarity and you are closer to making your decision!