Planning Your Own Wedding: When Your Heart Is Too In It

Planning your own wedding IS possible.

I know, it is wild for me to say that as I run a planning business, but here’s the thing: I did it. I planned my own wedding, before I ventured into my event schooling, when I was as inexperienced as most people who try to plan their own event (not that that is the case for everyone planning their wedding).

So, I get it! You want your day to reflect your wishes and you are confident that you can make that happen yourself. Logistically, maybe you can (See: Should you hire a planner?). So, we’ve talked about the logistics before, but there is a whole other side to think about before you decide to plan your own wedding: Your emotions.

Even if you have the skillset to plan your own wedding, sometimes you need someone who is unbiased to help you focus and hone in on the practical, less-dreamy side of things.

In simpler terms:

You may not be the best person to plan your best day.

In my own experience, there are mistakes I made for my wedding that were not huge errors in planning, but rather errors in my own judgement because I was clouded by my vision for my “perfect day”.

I bought two wedding dresses- not because I wanted to do a dress switch, but because I didn’t think through my venue, my personality, and my comfort level before I purchased the first one.

Our wedding was freezing, and yet I went ahead with my fully outdoor ceremony with no heaters because I visually liked it better than my backup plan. I wanted to keep my reception outside, too, and we had to do a last minute switch indoors that was only made possible by SO many friends and family members that helped us literally move things around.

Those are the biggest ones, but there were mistakes here and there that also could have been avoided by having an impartial sounding board for my big decisions.

Now, I also realize that admitting these things probably doesn’t make me sound like the most competent planner. But again, we had backup plans and things set up to run perfectly in the first place, I just didn’t want to admit that my day couldn’t go how I had envisioned it and give the go ahead for the switched to be made, because my heart was too involved in the planning process to give up my vision.

At the end of the day, your wedding will be perfect for you. Mistakes and all, it will be a day that you remember going exactly how it was meant to go. My hope for you is that you will know that it is not a process meant to be done alone, whether that means you enlist someone for partial planning or full service planning.

You can see my services here, and I am always open to chatting through your plans to see if we are a good fit for each other. Your wedding should reflect YOU, my job is to make sure it does that without sacrificing any of the more practical details.

Should you hire a planner?

There are many ways that event planners can assist you in creating your dream event. However, if you aren’t confident that you want to hire a planner, here are some key things to think about to help you decide.

Budget: Often times, hiring a planner can actually save you money because of the connections they have with vendors. However, if your budget is tight, you may just not reasonably be able to hire a planner and still have room in your budget for the other things you want at your event.

Organization: Maybe you love organization and planning, and the idea of planning a large event excites you! In this case, you can probably manage a simple wedding or event with the help of friends and family. If your event has a lot of vendors and a lot of details to pay attention to, you might want a planner to ensure you don’t miss out on anything you know you want for your event. If you aren’t the most efficient when it comes to being organized and keeping a schedule, or if you want an extra pair of eyes to make sure you haven’t missed a step, a planner is going to save you a lot of time and effort.

Clerical Work: Planning a wedding involves a lot of communication with a lot of people. If you like clerical work, you might not find it daunting to communicate with many vendors at the same time. On the other hand, if you don’t enjoy checking emails, reading contracts, and keeping up with other forms of communication, it might be nice to have a planner who can take care of the majority of these tasks for you.

Vision: If you don’t have a clear vision of what you want your event to look like, having a planner especially in the beginning stages of planning can be key. Planners are trained to know how to creatively involve your interests and create a unique event that reflects your personality. You may already have a Pinterest board full of ideas, and in that case, you might be okay tackling those DIYs yourself to create your vision.

Other Responsibilities: Life gets busy, and if you have full time work or anything else that takes up the majority of your time, it might just not be practical to set aside a few hours a day to plan your event. Hiring a planner who has the time and knows how to work efficiently will be key to hosting the event you have been dreaming of.

Day-Of: As a general rule, it is always a good idea to have someone other than yourself that vendors or guests can come to with any questions on the day of the event. Maybe you have someone responsible close to you that could handle this task, but if you can’t think of anyone, or if you want your close friends and family to be able to relax and enjoy your event, it would be a good idea to hire a planner or coordinator, at least for the day of the event.

Hiring a planner is never a bad idea, as there are always ways that a planner can assist you and things that a planner may know that you might not think of. Hopefully, if you have been unsure of whether or not to hire a planner, this list gave you a little bit of clarity and you are closer to making your decision!

A Little Bit About Me

Planning special events can be incredibly personal, and if you are anything like me, it helps to get to know someone’s personality before you decide whether you want to work with them! The purpose of this post is to tell you a bit about myself, both the personal and business sides, so you can get a feel for who you will be sharing these special parts of your life with.

I grew up in a big family in the suburbs with my parents and 4 siblings. This made me quite the people person, and helped me to relate to people of varying ages and beliefs. Even though I love spending time around people, I am an introvert at heart and I love to recharge by watching tv or reading a good book with a nice cup of tea. I am obsessed with watermelon, my cat, Pickles, and I will never not want a good fruit pie. I think my jokes are hilarious, and my husband laughs to make me feel better about them. I love love, and I think everyone deserves to be loved and accepted for what makes them who they are.

A little over a year ago, I married my amazing husband Jake. We planned a fully outdoor wedding at the end of April and it ended up being one of the coldest days that month (hello snow). We ended up having to move our reception indoors last minute, and with the help of our amazing family and friends, everything turned out even better than we could have hoped. Our wedding taught me that no matter how worried you are of the things that can go wrong, your day will turn out exactly how it should, even if it doesn’t go exactly as planned.

As a planner, it is my job-among a million other things- to make sure there are backup plans in place, and to deal with any changes that need to happen so you can sit back and enjoy your day. Of course, if it is something as big as a venue change on the day of like mine was, you will be part of that decision, but for the most part, my job is to make sure that you aren’t aware of any problems until they are resolved. My goal in planning your event is to give you the day YOU are dreaming of. There may be suggestions I can give and advice I can offer when asked, but my dream as a planner is to ensure that we are executing your dream day and not anyone else’s. My hope for my business is that I can help those planning to host events to be able to be present on the day of their event, so they can have memories of the feelings that were there, the people that they talked to, and so much more. Planning an event yourself is definitely possible- though it is a lot of work- but when you plan your own event you too often end up missing out on experiencing it because you are busy managing things as the day unfolds. I want to help you by achieving your vision through the planning process, and then letting you step back on the day of to enjoy all that we have planned.

I hope that reading this has helped you to get to know me a bit better, and to help you understand my dream for planning your event with you!

Thanks for reading,

Jenna ❤

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